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How to Deal With Heartbreak | 8 Steps to Self-Love

In life we go through ups and downs; sickness, unexpected life circumstances, but I think the hardest of these is heartbreak. It can be especially hard during the Valentine's Day holiday when images of couples are heavily promoted and all you can think of is love lost. But there is good news, everyday can be a season of love when it comes to self-love so in this blog I'm sharing my eight steps towards self-love after a heartbreak.

Step 1: Take a Step Back & Evaluate

A time of heartbreak can become an opportunity to transition and evaluate what is going on. Ask yourself was this something created out of fear, was it a mutual agreement, or did you just out grow the relationship? It can be hard to look at the part you played in the break up but it can lead to better awareness to increase your self-love journey. Once you evaluate it's time to move forward.

Step 2: Admit it Sucks!

Never suppress your feelings during heartbreak. It's tough and if you face it you are more likely to conquer your emotions instead of being in denial. Suppressing your emotions can only lead to angry outburst or worse illness in your body. So cry if you need to and let out your true feelings. Take time to grieve the loss and admit if you still have feelings for the person. It is healthy to acknowledge your feelings while choosing to love yourself first.

Step 3: Ask Yourself, What Can I Learn from this?

If God is allowing you to go through this there is a lesson in disguise. But what I know for sure is that God loves you and he will be with you through the brokenness. Asking yourself this tough question can allow you to come out of a heartbreak stronger and more wiser. Strength and wisdom are two powerful attributes you'll need for your self love journey.

Step 4: Get Support

Do not suffer in silence. It can be easy to want to isolate during a heartbreak but resist it. Stay connected and get professional help if needed to deal with your mental heath and well-being. Go to the gym, join a group hobby, call your best friend, go to church, get out the house, get hugs, and ask for what you need.

Step 5: Take Extra Care